Dear [Donor],

“Adoodookrukra,” Pidge explains what she’s doing matter-of-factly. She flashes a toothy grin, nods, and goes back to her stacker toy. Her bottom lip protrudes as she concentrates. It’s so Pidge. We know this because we know this little girl—her mannerisms, her moods, her desires, her displeasures. She is our whole world; our everything.

How can we possibly express our gratitude? How can we ever say thank you enough?

Pidge was born and time stood still. Our once empty arms were filled with this tiny bundle of joy and wonder. Our hearts felt like they could burst. Over the past year, we have shared every moment with Pidge. From the first time she laughed, to her first tooth, to rolling over, sitting up, crawling, and her first solid foods. Every day has been magic.

You have given us such a gift. Pidge would have been impossible without you. Thank you—for your willingness to help us grow our family; for the self-sacrifice it took; for adjusting your schedule repeatedly to be on our clock; for understanding and respecting your role as a donor. You are more than we could have ever asked for. You are more than we could have ever expected. And we are so thankful.

Not many people would step up and offer something like this, but you did. Your kindness, thoughtfulness, and generosity is a testament to who you are. We are so thankful that our daughter will have a piece of that. Many women who want to have a child end up using an anonymous donor at a sperm bank. They have no idea about who makes up half of their child’s genetics. We feel so fortunate that we not only know who makes up Pidge, but that her genetics were contributed by a person who we admire and who we would want her to emulate.

We understand that [your wife] was a part of these decisions as well. That also means a lot to us. Her support for you being our donor underscores how incredible both of you are. You two have given us something more precious than we could ever describe. You have given us family. We will forever be grateful.

Thank you. For offering this to us, for following through, for helping create Pidge, for… everything.

Love,

Us. [Mom, Mama, and Pidge]